Value Happiness

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Learn to Value Yourself, Which Means: Fight for Your Happiness – Ayn Rand

Learn to Value Yourself, Which Means: Fight for Your Happiness – Ayn Rand

The more you realize that life is a gift, that everything changes and you’re not always in control; the more you are able to recognize that happiness is a choice. Finding joy and happiness in the present moment – no matter how inadequate it may seem – can make a difference both in your life and in the lives of those around you. And that’s worth fighting for.

While we all have different dreams and life goals, for many, living a meaningful life that positively influences others is important. The fight for happiness begins when you choose to be a leader, not a follower. When you chose to live your life in a manner that is pleasing to you – doing things that fulfill you, focusing on the hopeful or happy rather than the negative.

Every day, when you wake up in the morning, take a moment to be thankful for all that you have. Get ready and be determined to give the world the best you have to offer. If you can look in the mirror and see someone who is genuinely full of love, integrity, and honesty, then the world will be that much richer for having you in it. Happiness is a moment-to-moment choice; choose to concentrate on the good, both in the world and in yourself.

Don’t let perfect get in the way of good enough – you are enough, and what you are doing is enough. Remember that life could end at any time, whether you are ready or not. This means that at any point, your life could be considered complete. So why not live it your way? Don’t be so hard on yourself for living your life. Just do your best. Appreciate each breath you take in a way that allows you to continually strive towards ever bigger, ever brighter.

Do what you love to do, not because you have something to prove, but because you deserve happiness. Be happy because it’s your right.

This post first appeared on The Seeds 4 Life written by Kaylaa T. Blackwell


The 4 Virtues of Peace and Understanding


in All Articles January 5, 2016

“Those who want to know the truth of the universe should practice the four cardinal virtues.” – Dr. Wayne Dyer

Daily distractions make us lose sight of the core purpose of our existence – to understand, learn, and grow.

The fast-paced and often stressful world may also cause us to periodically behave in ways that don’t necessarily align with our true nature. The key is to not let these situations persist. We need to recognize when we falter and find personal ways to find balance.

The following themes can be thought of as guide posts for our personal pursuits of contentment. They are simple bits of wisdom from ancient scholars that can help us when life gets crazy.

Unconditional Love

This is accepting “what is” instead of demanding what “should be” – The uniqueness in each of us is something to celebrate – even if we sometimes make mistakes.

Perfection, as it relates to human experience, is elusive. Imperfection is natural and can be beautiful – in art and in life.

Everyone needs love. We need to remind ourselves that the behaviors we see in others might be contrary to how they feel. Actions that lead to troubled relationships can be self-sabotage brought on by fears.

Unconditional love can help us avoid the defense mechanisms – the walls we erect to protect us from feeling the pain.

It might be the most valuable gift you can give someone, but it shouldn’t have “strings attached” – It should come from simply understanding we are all in this world together, and we need each other to learn, grow and be better.


Being true to yourself means you think and behave in a way that aligns to your actual feelings. Your internal world aligns with your external world.

Sincerity is synonymous with honesty, authenticity, and genuineness, which are personality traits that build trust and strengthen relationships.

It’s having the courage to “be real” as we interact with others.

It’s an awareness of the illusions created in the commercial world that tell us what we should want and what we should do. By avoiding these false expectations, we are more honest with ourselves.

When we match what we truly believe with what we say and do, we can achieve inner peace. This is why it’s widely believed to be an important ingredient within the recipe of happiness.


Gentleness is existing with ease and grace. It’s allowing yourself to observe and interact naturally, without force or excessive will.

It’s finding a way to respond to life with compassion and understanding instead of letting previously learned programs or beliefs drive us to an aggressive reaction.

I used to relate gentleness to femininity, or weakness in a man. Now, I realize it’s quite the opposite. This habit requires inner strength and discipline.

Gentleness helps us show respect for the things and people in our lives. It fosters cooperation and harmony.

It’s a natural part of our true spirit.


Generosity is service to others without expecting anything in return. It’s the willingness to devote time with the simple goal of making someone’s experience a little better.

It also means being generous to yourself. This could be scheduling “me time” to accomplish personal goals.

By helping yourself first through awareness and healthy habits, you are in a much better position to help others. If you are strong, you can use that energy for someone else.

Generosity also seems to have the mysterious “boomerang” quality. When we offer it in a genuine manner, it often comes back to us when we least expect it.


Sometimes the most potent things in life are simple. The behaviors and values taught by grandmothers, wise philosophers, and ancient scholars often hold the secrets to contentment.

Once we have intent and commit to these ideas, we can form new healthy habits.

Then our lives become richer, and we are suddenly the wise ones.

To Ever Slip in Composure

Have you ever had the urge to chat early in the morning and could find no one to?  Well, this is one of the moments.  I have many friends on social media, but “what in the world would they say?” is always on my mind when I imagine venturing over that end to chat.  After all, you would only say one thing to a friend but not to another.  Not so with anonymous chatting, you can chat away as long as you like without feeling that you’re impinging on another.

So reading Eat, Pray and Love this morning, her writing fed into this urge to just write anything.  Anything is good enough is written all over her writing, even though I know in the back of my mind that simple ranting would not, not without a certain set of vocabulary, or an intriguing content.

However, “I have never learned how to arrange my face into that blank expression of competent invisibility…you know-that super-relaxed, totally-in-charge expression which makes you look like you belong there, anywhere, everywhere…”.  I don’t want to hide into one of these facades again, no, not this morning.  Only when I read this, did I realize I was on my way to acquiring one of these facades, it appears so attractive that it prompts one to unconsciously fall onto its path.

Everyone expects it of you, you walk into a room and voila, they all wear a perfect one that suits their personality, rarely do you see a genuine one that would pass as a facade, which would without fail, bring all this into perspective.  In the meantime, if you were to stutter, flush, or slip a little in confidence, you fall right through the cracks into the floors, and you would see all the faces glaring down from above.

The thing is, I am never that confident in anything!  Not when it involves more than one person, it would make me presumptuous, conceited and tyrannical!  So you put on a facade, just to make people around you comfortable, you know, one of the considerate acts from people like me.  But it slips, from time to time, as it is after all, a facade.

In the meantime, I am struggling to become one of the genuine people who are comfortable within and without themselves.  That is the ultimate answer to a room full of uncomfortable people, including yourself.

Perhaps we all are not as confident as we seem to be, even though we will never in our life show it through our facade, we are all in fact trying to be nice to others, just that we fail ourselves from time to time, and we are simply too hard onto ourselves, therefore it slips through our facade when caught unawares.  Alas, we are onto another before we know it!

Oh yes, I understand it all, just that when I go out there, I am still conscious that I have a facade on, that I could only wish with a longing sigh, that I had “that super-relaxed, totally-in-charge expression which makes you look like you belong there, anywhere, everywhere…”

Singular Sensation Writers

“Everyone who writes has an imaginary friend.

There is an ideal reader in my imagination, a figure who finds even my shopping lists and notes in the margins of books interesting. I have not yet actually met anyone who fits this description, but I keep writing, just in case….So everyone who writes has a figure, real or imagined, who is supposed to be the reader of the message…” — An Ideal Reader

“I write because I’m compelled to do so. As I would wager most of the writers using WordPress – or any of the other blogging platforms – do.  To communicate, to connect, to inform, to educate, to entertain, to let the world know I lived. That I didn’t follow the crowd, that I thought for myself and was able to share those thoughts with others.” — Why Even Bother


In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Idyllic.”

A community is a clustering of people of the same values, with a common interest to keep the community as such.  If you were to move into one, you would have liked the community for a reason and would have strived to have the community remain just the way you have found it, adopting its values, adhering and contributing to them.

This is how I had understood of communities, by having resided deep within them through the years.  The community that attracted you at first sight, would have guided you to further explore the intrinsic values that appealed to you, bringing them to the community and merging into the community as a member of the community.

We are a chorus of the beauty we see.  To me, this is not idealistic, for this is the definition of community to me:  to communicate and thus in unity.

Thou Art With Me

“I failed miserably at being a savior, too intent on being saved. Every smile supplied, every tear I turned into laughter, every pleasure I gave, left me weaker. Father yelled through the pages of His Word. He whispered demands. I couldn’t take the emptiness. I couldn’t bear the longing. With Him, it was all might and not enough tenderness. The damage, my soul in unrecognizable pieces.

The dream always went this way. However the living nightmare varied. Years of spiritual turmoil led to the only possible solution. Turning her back on God wasn’t what she wanted.

THOU ART WITH ME is the story of one woman’s struggle with religion and how the way home is often through a revolving door. Releasing herself from the perfection wheel, she found God was with her all along. Abandoning dogma led her to God’s resting place, her heart. “


Daily Prompt: Coming To a Bookshelf Near You
Write a summary of the book you’ve always wanted to write for the back cover of its dust jacket.

You can’t put your finger on God’s plan. Sometimes an act of defiance brings you closer to destiny. 

I have made my decision. I’m walking away. My creator stands with arms folded refusing to give. The Unclean One stands to my right. Pleasure beyond belief written on his face. I’m walking backwards to the gates of the Hungry Spirits. Such a horrible noise they make with their anticipation to devour me. The stench of my hair singeing puts my conscience in a choke hold. My eyes plead with Father to show me He loves me regardless of my mistakes. He is stone, expressionless. The Evil One states his children will love the taste of my fallen soul.

I failed miserably at being a savior, too intent on being…

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