The 4 Virtues of Peace and Understanding


in All Articles January 5, 2016

“Those who want to know the truth of the universe should practice the four cardinal virtues.” – Dr. Wayne Dyer

Daily distractions make us lose sight of the core purpose of our existence – to understand, learn, and grow.

The fast-paced and often stressful world may also cause us to periodically behave in ways that don’t necessarily align with our true nature. The key is to not let these situations persist. We need to recognize when we falter and find personal ways to find balance.

The following themes can be thought of as guide posts for our personal pursuits of contentment. They are simple bits of wisdom from ancient scholars that can help us when life gets crazy.

Unconditional Love

This is accepting “what is” instead of demanding what “should be” – The uniqueness in each of us is something to celebrate – even if we sometimes make mistakes.

Perfection, as it relates to human experience, is elusive. Imperfection is natural and can be beautiful – in art and in life.

Everyone needs love. We need to remind ourselves that the behaviors we see in others might be contrary to how they feel. Actions that lead to troubled relationships can be self-sabotage brought on by fears.

Unconditional love can help us avoid the defense mechanisms – the walls we erect to protect us from feeling the pain.

It might be the most valuable gift you can give someone, but it shouldn’t have “strings attached” – It should come from simply understanding we are all in this world together, and we need each other to learn, grow and be better.


Being true to yourself means you think and behave in a way that aligns to your actual feelings. Your internal world aligns with your external world.

Sincerity is synonymous with honesty, authenticity, and genuineness, which are personality traits that build trust and strengthen relationships.

It’s having the courage to “be real” as we interact with others.

It’s an awareness of the illusions created in the commercial world that tell us what we should want and what we should do. By avoiding these false expectations, we are more honest with ourselves.

When we match what we truly believe with what we say and do, we can achieve inner peace. This is why it’s widely believed to be an important ingredient within the recipe of happiness.


Gentleness is existing with ease and grace. It’s allowing yourself to observe and interact naturally, without force or excessive will.

It’s finding a way to respond to life with compassion and understanding instead of letting previously learned programs or beliefs drive us to an aggressive reaction.

I used to relate gentleness to femininity, or weakness in a man. Now, I realize it’s quite the opposite. This habit requires inner strength and discipline.

Gentleness helps us show respect for the things and people in our lives. It fosters cooperation and harmony.

It’s a natural part of our true spirit.


Generosity is service to others without expecting anything in return. It’s the willingness to devote time with the simple goal of making someone’s experience a little better.

It also means being generous to yourself. This could be scheduling “me time” to accomplish personal goals.

By helping yourself first through awareness and healthy habits, you are in a much better position to help others. If you are strong, you can use that energy for someone else.

Generosity also seems to have the mysterious “boomerang” quality. When we offer it in a genuine manner, it often comes back to us when we least expect it.


Sometimes the most potent things in life are simple. The behaviors and values taught by grandmothers, wise philosophers, and ancient scholars often hold the secrets to contentment.

Once we have intent and commit to these ideas, we can form new healthy habits.

Then our lives become richer, and we are suddenly the wise ones.


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